Settling. We all do it. In our job. In our relationship. We settle, but why?
I believe we start to settle in our habits when we start to forget how worthy we are as human beings. This world of ours constantly reminds us how we are not Pretty enough, Fun enough, Smart enough on the daily. After hearing this multiple times, we start to believe it.
Personally, I have settled in multiple aspects of my life and do not catch myself until things tumble down. My reaction? Just Why. This has happened in travels, relationships, job, etc. I started to doubt everything good happening around me because I do not know what will tumble next. As a normal human reaction, we prepare ourselves for the next thing to fall.
Why. Why this is happening to me. Why this is happening to every one around me. I thought we all were doing the right thing? Then, it hits me.
God refuses to let us settle on something that will hold us from being the best possible us we can be. If we refuse to let it go then God will force it. Whether you like it or not.
My job, Dutch Bros, is a place where you are loved for who you are and you get to make an impact in someone’s’ life through coffee. You can walk into work and expect 5 people to embrace you with love. For 6 hours, you get to connect with all types of people and create new friendships. This place is the definition of God’s love for people. It is the Disneyland of jobs. Too many of my friends have left this amazing place. Now, why would anyone want to leave an special place like this? Because. Even though this place is special, they know there is no more growth for them there. Deep in their heart, they know their heart is needed somewhere else. Dutch Bros has shaped them into the fearless, God loving people they are and now it is time to spread that love somewhere new. It is time for someone else to take their spot and learn this important lesson in life. Did they want to do this? Not at all but when you have an empty feeling towards your job then it is time to move forward.
Oh the beauty of finding love. We stumble across someone who catches our interest. We open ourselves up to them. We trust them with our deepest secrets. We feel secure in them. Everything about relationships is beautiful because two people started as strangers and became something more. The challenges you face together. The growth you experience as a team. It gives me goosebumps of how special a relationship can be.
When does the thought of settling happen?
When you start to become a question to them, move on. At any point in your relationship, move on. And Vis Versa. Relationships take work and it takes two people who are willing to make this work. Life curves will hit the relationship throughout. That is what life consist of. That is where growth happens. But when you start to become a question in the relationship, move on.
Yes, relationships are scary. Becoming serious is terrifying. But to know your person is by your side, willing to fight through it. Now that is beautiful.
When the honeymoon phase is over, you see each others flaws, and you still chose them. That is special. You cannot control someone else feelings. You cannot change the person they are. The person they are now will be the same person for the next 20 years. Let God lead you into this because emotions will set you up to fail. But just remember, if they question your worth then move on to a person who sees your worth and is crazy about it. You know your worth, don’t have someone question it.
God loves you. He created you so uniquely. Their is no one else in this world like you. Each time you smile, it brings Him joy. Each time you cry, it breaks His heart. We are His children and he continue to love us even when we stir away. God wants us to grow into the best us possible, just as our parents do. Mistakes will happen. Pain will arise. But to know God wants the absolute best for you, Trust it. I do.
“’For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future’”